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Jenna Edgley
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It's Your Life, Live It YOUR WAY!

24/6/2018

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Today I did my usual daily scroll through the parenting and health groups that I’m a member of on Facebook, the kind of scrolling that you do out of habit every morning – scroll, scroll, scroll, stop and read, scroll, scroll, stop and read and OMG I SIMPLY MUST reply, scroll etc etc etc – and this morning started off no different - all the same things asking about this or that, recommendations for car seats or care providers or places to go and visit etc and then the “I’m not allowed to do this” posts started popping up. Just one here or there, pretty mainstream for the most part (partner is controlling and she’s not ready to leave yet, no money to pay for any extra’s that the kids want to do, genuine health issues meaning baby must be born sooner rather than later), then two in a row occasionally, and then it was one or two every few posts and they were getting more and more ridiculous – My family doctor/husband/OB-GYN/mother/brother/sister/grandmother/best-friend/sisters-brother-in-laws-cousins-best-friends-nephew said that I can’t do [insert LEGAL thing of choice here] so I need some other options!”

“Hang on!” I thought, “You’re not doing something, something that IS LEGAL, that you want to do, something that isn’t actually putting your life, or your children’s lives either, at risk simply because someone else told you that you’re not ALLOWED to do it? Are you an adult or a child? I’m pretty sure you’re a grown arse WOMAN (your profile says you are a grown woman, so I’m pretty sure my assumption that you are an adult is correct there, and yes sometimes I do have to go and double check just to make sure that I’m not making assumptions – making assumptions can bring bad karma) who can make her own decisions and not a child who is expected to obey grownups, so WHY are you letting someone else tell you what to do?!?!”

So, I ask you, those of you out there that is post has been specifically written for, I ask you right now, WHY are you letting someone else tell you what to do with your life? It’s your life, of course it is and while it is your decision to do what others tell you to do, even if they are family, or friends, or a specialist doctor, why are you letting them tell YOU what to do instead of making your own decisions about your OWN life?

What are you afraid of if you just, simply, say NO? That they might be angry/upset/frustrated with you?
Why does that matter to you, at this moment in time, so much?

Are you going to live your life in fear of what others think of you if you don’t do what they tell you do to?

Or are you going to live your own life and do what makes you happy, what works for you, what is right for you?

Picture, just for this moment, what your life would look like if you did what YOU wanted to do. If you made your own choices, your own decisions, if you didn’t let others rule you.

What does it look like? How does that possibility make you feel? What would it take for you to be living that life RIGHT NOW?

The hard truth is that only you can create your own life, only you can make your own decisions, and only you can choose how, when, what and why your life is how it is right now – and only you can change it.

Make your own choices for yourself, make your own decisions for yourself - don’t let others make them for you – and take control of your life.

You only get to live once, make the most of it.

Live your life, YOUR WAY!


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​​"Your birth. Your body. Your baby. Your choice. Your way. Even when the shit hits the fan and you have to change your original plans."


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Do you want 1-on-1, 100% focused on YOU support during your pregnancy and birth? Do you want someone willing to listen who really HEARS YOU? How about a source of unbiased up to date information? Someone who doesn’t have a hidden agenda? Who trusts in, and believes, in you? Who doesn't pretend to be someone that they aren't? Someone who will give their all in supporting you to the best of their ability and beyond?
If your answer is a resounding YES!!! and you live on the North Side of Brisbane send a message TODAY to arrange a no obligation interview.​
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Men And Women Are Treated Unequally As Patients

16/6/2018

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Anyone who knows me well will know that I am a huge advocate for respectful, evidence based, consensual medical care. You would also know that I am hugely against inadequate medical care when medical care is absolutely necessary and INSANELY AGAINST biased and coercive based medical care.

If you didn’t know any of that, then congratulations! Now you know and I won’t have to say it all again later on.
Before I really get started on what this blog post is about though I’d like you all to picture something in your minds for me:
  • A man goes to the emergency department of his local hospital at night for excruciating lower abdominal pain, non-stomach-bug-related vomiting and inability to walk without aid.
    The pain doesn't respond to any of the standard pain relief medication normally given when people present with severe (currently) unexplained pain – paracetamol and ibuprofen doesn’t work, the maximum doses of endone or buprenorphine doesn’t work. Usually when that happens the nurses consult with the on call registrar and stronger pain medications are ordered (morphine, fentanyl etc).
    The man gets to stay in the hospital for a couple of days or so days with regular morphine and/or fentanyl and/or every other strong pain relief available to try and get the pain under control while having in depth investigations to find out exactly what is causing the pain (by in depth I don’t just mean the standard urine and blood tests and maybe an ultrasound – I mean the full kit & caboodle testing to rule out everything from appendicitis to cancer to an obstructed bowel). The man walks out of the hospital with his pain under control and either a diagnosis or a referral to a specialist who can diagnose him.

Now I ask you to picture this:
  • A woman with a pre-existing incurable and generally painful disease goes to the emergency department of her local hospital at night for excruciating lower abdominal pain, non-stomach-bug-related vomiting and inability to walk without aid.
    She is only given one endone every 4 hours and two paracetamol every 6 hours. When she tells the nurse that neither of those pain medications is helping at all she is given a heat pack and told “that will help” (what the nurse hasn’t been told is that the patient spent the previous 6 hours before rocking up at the hospital at home taking the buprenorphine she normally takes for severe pain related to her pre-existing disease with a heat pack so hot that it is burning the skin on her lower abdomen). Only the basic tests (urine, bloods and an ultrasound – a basic one that cannot pick up the disease that she has and has been proven in the past to not show serious things that were happening within her body) – are done and she’s left to suffer and cry alone in her bed on the ward while still in excruciating pain. After about 12-18 hours, and maybe in a rare case after a second overnight stay, she is sent home and told to “wait it out” as it is assumed to just be a 100 times nastier than normal flare up of her incurable condition – no in depth testing has been done, the pain is still not under control and the woman in question can barely walk let alone speak up for herself as she’s pushed out the automatic doors with no real help and told to see her GP in the morning, all so the hospital can make room for someone “who really needs the bed”.

After visualising both of those scenarios can you see the difference between the two? The differences between the tests that were done and the treatments that were given? In how both patients are cared for and the results that both received? In when and how they went home?

The man received better treatment, his pain with an unknown cause was taken much more seriously and given top priority to find out what was wrong, and he was given adequate pain relief and left the hospital with the pain in control and a plan in place.

The woman wasn’t given adequate treatment, was given inadequate pain relief, was brushed off and mostly ignored, and, potentially even more dangerously, her pain was solely attributed to a pre-existing condition with only minimal investigation done - what if it had been her appendix getting ready to burst? Or what if part of her bowel that wasn’t visible on ultrasound had ruptured? Or what if her fallopian tube and ovary had twisted right behind her uterus where it can’t be seen clearly and had gone into torsion which can result in the loss of an ovary if it isn’t picked up in less than 6 hours of onset and can be deadly if it is left untreated? All of these are valid concerns but sadly a lot of them are brushed off and ignored if there isn’t anything visible on an ultrasound or if the symptoms don’t exactly match what most doctors have been trained to recognise.

If you can’t tell already I’ll explain this now – there is HUGE inequality between how men and women (and this is not even going into how those who don’t associate as either are often treated!) are treated when it comes to the quality of the medical care given to them.

In some ways - and some places - we are still very much in the dark ages with how women experiencing reproductive, lower abdominal and pelvic issues are treated in hospital settings. This is not to say that there aren’t some wonderful care providers out there because there are, I’ve personally met some of them, but they are few and far in between and the chances of one of them being on duty when you end up in hospital are really slim.
You may think that these are just random scenarios created in the fertile darkness of my crazy mind but I must sadly inform you right now that this isn’t the case.

These scenarios are both based on very true stories – the inspiration for the man’s scenario came from a combination of my own husband’s experience and the experiences of random men who have shared their stories online, the woman’s scenario actually happened only this past week, and the woman’s scenario is also, I am very sad to report, the real life outcome that happens to hundreds of women every single day all around Australia.

When I randomly questioned a group of women (some who have children and some who don’t have children, some with a painful health condition and some without any known conditions at all) about the two scenarios above the answers were empathetic towards the woman’s scenario and many shared their own experiences.
  • W- “It is like you have written the experiences of myself and my husband”

  • Another, Anonymous, responded with – “The world is sexist as if a man says he is in pain he is surrounded by help but a woman has pain she is told to deal with it.”

  • P says – “It's BECAUSE pain associated with women's reproductive organs is accepted as "normal".

  • From B – “I'm a part of a huge Perth group and I honestly just saw a story like this on there, but it was a mental health thing. They kept the person in overnight but then said they assessed her and she wasn't deemed worthy of a bed and was discharged even though she went in with suicidal tenancies - yet someone else (male) posted their experiences with the same hospital in the same mental health unit and couldn't stop praising the hospital saying how great they were for him and how they must have been leaving something out for them to have kicked her out. Yet, when copious amounts of other women came along and said they experienced the same thing, said male 'joked' that men have it harder anyways which is why they're better looked after.
    I know it's not the same thing but in some aspects is because it shows that there are some discrepancies in care.
    I have seen this before myself and been a part of it. A few years ago, I presented to the ED with chest pains and numbness down my arm. I got taken in 2 hours later, put on an ECG machine and monitored for an hour maybe 2 before told I could go home. Given pills for the pain and dizziness I was feeling at the time too. Nothing worked and I felt so horrible and tired that while on the ECG machine, I fell asleep. Next morning, woke up and felt horrible and the pain wasn't gone but dulled down.
    A couple years later, XH goes to hospital with exactly the same as what I was feeling and ended up staying overnight and having all tests run on him under the sun (Luckily they did cause they found gall stones but still) and I remember just saying to him that he was get preferential treatment cause he was a male - little did I know how true it actually felt.”

Every single day in Australia women are treated as second class patients compared to their male counterparts and have their pain ignored, they are told to “suck it up”, that pain is “normal” (pain is not “normal”, even the scientific literature agrees that pain isn’t “normal” and is a symptom of an underlying issue that needs to be treated) and that we just need to live with it, to go and see a psychologist or therapist because it’s “all in our heads” and if we “fix our heads” the pain will “go away” (it won’t, physical pain can’t just be stopped by a psychologist or therapy, it needs adequate physical medical treatment and pain relief as well and even then it may not be “fixed”).
What can you do to change this? There are several things and I’ll outline them below.

  • Contact your local members for parliament. By sending your local members for parliament letters outlining your anger at how women are treated in the healthcare system you can help to promote more awareness by making them aware. Not all of them will respond or take it seriously, but some will take action on it.

  • If you or someone you know has been on the receiving end of this sort of treatment lodge a complaint with your local hospital. While most of the time you’ll only get a generic apology letter it is known that the more times that complaints are made, and the more people who kick up a huge stink about how they have been treated, the more that problems are taken seriously and the better the treatment will be for similar scenarios in the future.

  • If you or someone you know are currently being treated inadequately in a hospital setting and located in QLD you can call 13HEALTH and quote “Ryan’s Rule” (you can find the details of Ryan’s Rule here - https://www.health.qld.gov.au/cairns_hinterland/html/ryan-home)

  • If a specific doctor has treated you or someone you know like this you can lodge a complaint with the Medical Board (http://www.medicalboard.gov.au/~/link.aspx?_id=60F806737FE14B28AF314FB306B4BFBE&_z=z) and also with the Australian Medical Association (https://ama.com.au/tas/health-complaints)

  • Share awareness amongst your friends, family and anyone else who will listen. Many won’t be interested and some may even ridicule you but there will be people who are receptive to what you have to say and will listen and take action themselves.

  • Continue to advocate for yourself and those who rely on you for their care. If you don’t advocate for yourself you can’t change how you are treated. As part of advocating for yourself you can ban any practitioner from treating you or being in charge of your care and can request another practitioner if needed. You have the right to receive the best healthcare and treatment possible (and also to refuse any healthcare that you don’t want to have). The more people who advocate for better healthcare for themselves and others the more that Australia’s care providers will see how much people aren’t willing to put up with substandard treatment.

Lastly I want to say this – in order for the treatment of women in the healthcare system to be improved those who are in charge of our care need to be taught that we women are equal to and just as deserving of high quality medical treatment as our male counterparts who are also patients. They need to learn that our pain is real, that it exists physically and that a lack of adequate treatment is not only detrimental to our health and well-being (as women) but also to that of our families and friends too. Care providers need to take our pain seriously and provide adequate pain relief (not just minimal pain relief) and need to be educated on the various diseases and conditions that can cause it – not just the basic information from one paragraph in a medical text book but actual first hand information provided by a specialist in that particular field. They also need to respect us not only as fellow human beings but also as people who are intelligent, educated, able to recognise when something is wrong with our own bodies (it is our body after all and no one knows it better than ourselves) and able to make informed, intelligent and needed decisions for ourselves without being coerced, manipulated, forced or scared through fear mongering into making a decision that we otherwise wouldn’t make.



​​"Your birth. Your body. Your baby. Your choice. Your way. Even when the shit hits the fan and you have to change your original plans."



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Do you want 1-on-1, 100% focused on YOU support during your pregnancy and birth? Do you want someone willing to listen who really HEARS YOU? How about a source of unbiased up to date information? Someone who doesn’t have a hidden agenda? Who trusts in, and believes, in you? Who doesn't pretend to be someone that they aren't? Someone who will give their all in supporting you to the best of their ability and beyond?
If your answer is a resounding YES!!! and you live on the North Side of Brisbane send a message TODAY to arrange a no obligation interview.
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Why I can't save you from Obstetric Violence...

9/5/2018

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Today I took part in a discussion about obstetric violence and the doulas role when witnessing obstetric violence. It was very interesting and also sad, frustrating and made me a bit angry reading the personal experiences of going through obstetric violence from some of my fellow doulas, as well as the first hand witness accounts from those who has seen it done to their clients.
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Obstetric abuse is not new to me; I have been through it myself and know many others who have also been through it. Seeing it discussed openly and respectfully with suggestions of things that we (doulas) can do to help any of our clients who may be on the receiving end of it and hearing about the different ways that obstetric violence can be presented was very helpful and I know that I will be taking away much of what I have read and using it to help any of my future clients who may experience obstetric violence (I bloody well hope that none of them do!)

The biggest issue discussed was about many of those who experience obstetric violence AND have a doula supporting them while it is happening – specifically about the client blaming the doula for not stopping what happened and what we, as doulas who may be witness to this awful practice in the future, could potentially do to not only stop it from happening but also to potentially prevent it from happening at all. The one thing that I noticed most about this part of the discussion (and from a documentary that discussed women’s experiences of obstetric violence) was that the doula was often blamed for not stopping it, not preventing it, not fixing the problem.

Having personally experienced "birth rape" during the birth of my youngest child - I didn't have a doula during that birth and I did blame my husband for a LONG time afterwards (and still have some residual anger towards him that I have not yet been able to release, it has been nearly 6 years now and the long term negative effects of that experience still affect me to this day - I have forgiven my husband however, and I have no doubt at all that had I had a doula I would have blamed him/her for not protecting me instead of my husband) for not doing anything to stop what was being done to me (in his defence he truthfully had no idea what was going on and was focused on our baby who wasn't breathing yet and needed resuscitation). I blamed the person that I trusted the most during the most vulnerable moment of my life for not protecting ME, for not SAVING ME, for not ripping that fucking obstetric registrar away from me and ripping his damn head off. I still blamed the registrar for his actions, but most of my blame went to the person who was supposed to be my protector.

We as women who have experienced obstetric abuse still blame our care provider for what happened - that's obvious - but we also blame the person that we trusted most to protect us, either our partner, a family member/friend  or our doula (if we have one), because in our eyes they DID NOT protect us and they were supposed to.

Blame, choosing one person to blame for what happened, is (unfortunately for us) normal and is part of the grieving process, it's awful for us who are on the receiving end. And we are grieving after what happened to us – we are grieving for what should have been, grieving for the pain we have experienced that we shouldn’t have had to experience, grieving for everything that should have been perfect and right and instead went so very very fucking wrong.

WE the doulas become the scapegoats instead of the other support person (if there was one) just because of our presence in that room, WE become the ones who SHOULD have done more, SHOULD have been better, SHOULD have been able to FIX whatever was happening, SHOULD SHOULD SHOULD have done SOMETHING, ANYTHING to stop what was happening from happening in the first place. WE doulas are the ones who are trusted to protect our client, to keep our client safe, to tell our client what is happening and when. WE doulas are often expected to do more and be more than we actually are – like that old blog post about airy fairy doulas full of unicorns and rainbows from way back in 2014.

All that we as doulas are physically able to do in the birthing room is to tell our clients what is happening, speak up (out loud so that everyone present is aware of what we are saying) and ask our clients if they are ok with what is happening or if they wish for it to be stopped.

We cannot control what their care providers do.

We cannot physically stop their care providers without risking being charged with assault ourselves and as a result leaving our client alone, vulnerable and still in the hands of that care provider (here in Queensland, Australia we are now not "allowed" to even raise our voice in anger or frustration at a care providers actions, regardless of if we are in our role as a doula, as a patient or as the support person/advocate of a family member, without risking being potentially charged with abuse against that care provider ~ carries the risk of spending up to 14 years in jail if we are charged), we can do what we can within the limits of the current system wherever we are but we alone cannot change it, we can only create awareness and make sure that our clients know all of their options.

The harsh reality is that there isn't all that much that we doulas are able to do in the moment and we cannot stop all of it from happening. All we can do is support our client, inform them and their other support people, tell our clients if we see that something is being done without their consent and remind them that they can say NO and STOP and can kick their care provider out of their room if they don't stop what they are doing.

After the birth we can register complaints with the hospital and the relevant medical authority as witnesses of what occurred and we can provide a witness statement that our client can use for what we saw happen. We can support our client physically and mentally/emotionally and we can find suitable resources for our client so that our client can hopefully begin the process of healing, if not physically then at least mentally/emotionally.

It kills me inside that I cannot do more. I wish I could do more. I wish that I could save every single woman from experiencing anything like what I went through – I know that I can’t but the wish is still there – and all I want, more than anything else in this world, is to see those care providers who practice obstetric violence be appropriately punished for their actions and for all of the damage, pain and heartbreak that they have left in their wakes.

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Just a little end note:

-  If you or someone you know has experienced obstetric violence please lodge a complaint against the person who perpetrated that violence with both the hospital that it occurred in and also with the relevant regulatory authority for that persons profession.
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- If you or someone you know has experienced obstetric violence and is struggling mentally/emotionally please encourage them to seek help from a maternal mental health counsellor/psychologist with experience in treating complex PTSD caused by obstetric violence/birth trauma.
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Airy Fairy Doulas Full Of Rainbows And Unicorns

26/6/2014

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Recently I've come across quite a few articles and blog posts written by disgruntled mums blaming their Doulas for things not going right.

In some cases these mums have a right to be disgruntled - a couple of those so-called "doulas" were operating well outside of our scope of practice. Very scary for the mum who has never had the support of a good doula to read, and horrifying for the doulas who do their jobs well and stay within our scope of practice.

One of the prevalent things mentioned in these particular articles and blog posts describes doulas as "Airy Fairy Hippies who promote themselves as producers of births that are so good and wonderful that they are like rainbows and unicorns" (this is my take on the statements made in these articles and blogs and not the original wording, however the words "Airy Fairy Hippies" and "Rainbows and Unicorns" to describe Doulas all come straight from the blogs and articles themselves).

The biggest issue that I've found with these articles and posts is that these mums never "shopped around" for the right doula for them. They heard from a friend that there was a "great doula" in the area and upon meeting said doula they hired her on the spot. No questions asked, no mention of "meshing" between them and the doula and then lots of complaints in the blog/article about everything that the doula "did wrong" during mums pregnancy and labour.

Now I am not everyone, but I personally shop around for things that are important to ensure that I get "the best deal" or "the best fit". This applies to a service on my husband's car, and electrician to check the wiring in our house and a plumber to check the pipes. Most recently (and currently at this point in time) we are shopping around the various real estate agents in a bid to get the best price possible for our old house back in Morwell, Victoria.
You have to do the same with Doulas as well. Not every doula will be a match for every mum who contacts her and vice versa. You need to do your research and, unless there is only 1 doula in your area or none at all, you are guaranteed to have a variety of doulas in your area who would love to have the chance to meet you and see if you are a "good fit" together.

All doulas are different, some are the equivalent of the "Airy Fairy Hippies" described in the above mentioned blog posts and articles, others are serious and studious and stick to a strict schedule in their business practices. Some are male, many are female, some are bisexual, gay, lesbian or transsexual. Some have lots of kids, some only have 1 or 2, some adopt or foster, some don't have any kids at all for various reasons that are their own.
Some are "crunchy" parents who use gentle parenting techniques, others are strict parents. Some promote and only attend drug and intervention free births, others only support women who are having an elective cesarean,  while others support families who have lost their baby in utero or who will lose their baby soon after birth. Some doulas also support people who are dying from a terminal illness (these are called Full Spectrum Doulas). Doulas are all of these and more.

I myself never had a Doula for my own births, although now I wish I had, it would have made my births be much better experiences.
The picture at the top of this post is of me and my youngest child just minutes after she was born - my 2nd VBAC delivery after 55 hours of labour that could have been much shorter and far less traumatic if I'd had a Doula there to bolster my confidence and help me to find my voice. I look at this picture and I am filled with a mixture of happiness that my baby girl arrived safely, and sadness at how I was treated in the process of bringing her into the world and that I didn't have the extra support that I needed. Don't get me wrong, my husband was a fantastic support to me during labour, but there was only so much that he could do and he would have benefited from extra support as well.
As you can see I am a normal mum. I don't see myself as a "crunchy" mum or a strict mum. I am somewhere in the middle, I have to be with a child who has extra needs. I live my life day to day and plan ahead when needed. While I love the idea of natural drug and intervention free birth I know that that is not for everyone - I have not experienced it for myself either - and what worked for me won't necessarily work for everyone else. I devote my entire being to my clients, if they need me I am there ASAP to the point where I can leave my whole family in the lurch (lucky they support me wholeheartedly in my chosen profession and my kids are always excited to hear a new baby has been born). What I want out of your birth doesn't matter, all that matters is that you have the best birthing experience possible and I will support you and your decisions with my whole being. I cannot speak for you, but I can reassure you and tell you that you are doing an amazing job, whatever the outcome may be.

So as you can see we (including myself) are many and varied, but the one thing that brings us all together is the desire to provide extra emotional, physical and mental support to people going through the most important stages of our lives, whether it be bringing new life into the world or helping others on their journey out of this world. It is a very demanding job - we don't do this just for the money, we don't make millions of dollar's and many of us barely manage to put food on the table from what we earn once all of our expenses have been paid for - and not just anyone can do it. Quite often we burn out from everything that we put into our work and need to take reasonably regular breaks to rest and recharge before getting back into it again. We regularly attend marathon labours that last for over 24 hours (and in the case of the last birth I attended it was 53 hours lol and I only managed 3 hours of broken sleep somewhere in the middle because the adrenalin was still pumping). We are passionate, we love birth, we love being able to support people and feel blessed and honoured to be able to do this as a job. We are drawn to it like moths are drawn to a flame. Many of us (myself included) feel that we were born to do this and only this and anything that we did beforehand was only a stopgap measure until we found our true calling. Sometimes we end up with 2 or more clients going into labour at the same time. We cannot predict or control this, and on the rare occasions that it does happen we do everything that we can to either be at all births for as long as possible (sometimes we end up having to drive from one birth on the east side of the city/town to another birth on the west side, or north and south sides of the city/town, it is not ideal but we try to make it work) and if all else fails we try to arrange a back up doula to attend in our stead. This isn't ideal, but sometimes it has to happen.

What I am trying to say is that, no matter how much a friend or someone you know extols the benefits of a doula that they have personally hired or if they know somene who has hired a particular doula, you should always look around and make sure you mesh well with the doula that you decide to hire. This can sometimes mean having an interview meeting with 10 or more different doulas before you find the one that suits you the best. It will be worth it in the end as with the right doula even the most traumatic of labours can become something beautiful and special and be worth all of the pain that was involved at the time.

I have been lucky, I have become good friends with all of my clients, and they all had good outcomes even with things that came up during labour/birth, and we still talk regularly and share what our children are up to. We meshed so well that we were able to take the "client-doula" relationship further and will most likely remain friends for life. The best part is that we probably would never have met if they hadn't contacted me to ask if I could be their doula, and because of that I am truly blessed.
I know that in future I will be faced with clients who I don't mesh with or who don't mesh with me even if I do mesh with them, and that is OK.  It is part of the learning process and it is why I insist on an introductory meeting first to discuss things and see how well we get along. So please, please do your research before hiring a Doula! It will be more beneficial for you if you do.

As always, feel free to share :)

Jenna Edgley
Student Doula
FOOTPRINTS & RAINBOWS
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11 Important Things To Help Make Your Pregnancy And Birth Happier, Healthier And More Empowering (And They Can Be Applied To Every Day Life Too!)

23/6/2014

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Planning on having another baby but not sure what to do to increase your chances of a happy, relaxed, and healthy pregnancy and labour? Take these 11 things into consideration.
They are also good for every day life as well :)

1) Start exercising, even if it's only for 30 minutes a day, moderate exercise not only increases blood flow but also helps you to stay fit, increases your stamina (really good for during an unexpectedly long labour and also great for those sleepless nights with a newborn), increases oxygenation of your blood and makes you feel better too (once you get past the sore and tiring stage in the beginning anyway lol).

2) Eat a healthy, varied and balanced diet, if you are eating too much reduce your portion sizes and eat more fruits, nuts, seeds and vegetables. If you are overweight this can also help you to either loose weight or be healthier in general even if you don't lose any weight.

3) Increase your protein intake. Protein is needed to keep your muscles healthy and strong and to help them to grow, the uterus is a bunch of muscles in 3 layers and it needs protein to stay strong and healthy too. This is extremely important if you have previously had surgery involving your uterus, whether it was for a uterine rupture/tear, the removal of a fibroid, a D&C, a previous cesarean section or other uterine surgery.

4) Start drinking red raspberry leaf tea for 6 months prior to trying to become pregnant, not only does it contain trace vitamins and minerals that are very good for you but it also tones the muscles of the uterus which helps the uterus to be stronger and healthier during pregnancy and helps the uterine muscles to be more effective during labour, and the tea also helps to improve digestion of food, the absorption of essential vitamins and minerals and can help reduce the severity of PMT/PMS symptoms. If you don't have any risk factors or prior history of premature labour then you can continue drinking it throughout pregnancy to keep your uterus toned and strong.

5) Do your kegels to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. If you don't do this already then start doing it now! Your pelvic floor is needed to help your baby move through your pelvis and down the birth canal when you are pushing, and a weak pelvic floor can (not always) result in weak and ineffective pushing which can lead to interventions like forceps or ventouse/vacuum delivery and cesarean section.

6) Research your options for pregnancy and birth, from which doctor/obstetrician who will support you to achieve the birth you want to the hospital you want to deliver at (if you have more than one hospital in your area), pain relief (or lack of it if you decide to go all natural), Doula's, Independant or student Midwives and how you want to give birth eg. at home, in a birthing center, in a hospital, in a birthing pool, in the bath, standing up or sitting down, lying down etc or wherever/whatever else you can think of.

7) Start putting together notes for your birth plan. Don't finish it now as things may change when you are pregnant but you can put together a rough draft of what you want it to be like, type it up on the computer (if you have one) so that you can edit it as things change. This will also help you to find a supportive care provider as you can use it as a guide when asking questions.

8) Start working on your household budget, do up one for your current circumstances, do one for emergency circumstances and do another one for the future taking into account another baby and the expenses involved in caring for another child. If you feel the need to save up some money just in case then implement the future budget and put what you would be spending on another child in future into a savings account (for example the ANZ bank have a Progress Saver account where for every $10+ you deposit one transaction each month without any withdrawals you get 10% interest on that deposit for that month, other banks will have something similar and possibly even better so shop around for the best deal).

9) Plan ahead. This is similar to #7 but for physical/practical things. Start implementing a weekly/fortnightly meal plan if you don't have one already. Do a weekly bulk cook up - spend one day a week cooking up 7 days worth of meals, this will save you time, especially once you are pregnant or have a newborn, and once you are pregnant you can then cook extra and freeze it for a later date (really good for when you get home from hospital and are too tired or too busy with your new baby to cook). Also start putting together lists of the things you will need for a new baby, if it has been a few years since you last had a baby or you haven't had a baby yet this can be really helpful, you can start buying a few things in the lead up to trying to get pregnant, a few packs of wipes (they are also great for wiping up spills and cleaning bench tops), some baby socks, some blankets, sheets, wraps etc, you can also start pricing car seats, prams, nursery furniture and nappies (disposable or cloth) and this will help you to find out what you really want/need and if you write it all down now you can compare prices when you are pregnant and know if you are getting real value for money.

10) Take some time out for you. Whether this is just time to read a good book, a massage, manicure/pedicure etc, it is essential that you are happy and stress free when you are trying for a baby. This extends to pregnancy and labour, and post birth as well. Oxytocin is the happy hormone, it is also the predominant thing that kick starts dilation and labour and gets contractions going, and it also starts breastmilk production (baby is the other thing, if baby isn't ready to be born and isn't releasing the birth/labour hormones then labour won't start without medical intervention). A happy mum also makes a happy baby as they pick up on our moods and react to them accordingly, so start working on things that make you happy and stress free now so that you have plenty of practice for once you are pregnant and after baby is here.

11) Research, Research, Research. I can't stress how important this is, and I have mentioned it subtly in the above points. Whether it is the prices of baby items or the method of birth you would like always do your research. If a doctor tells you something during pregnancy that concerns/worries you then research it and get 2nd/3rd/4th opinions until you are 100% satisfied that there are no other options or that you have chosen the right option. Medical professionals aren't God's, they are human and they don't know everything, and like any human they can and will use their personal opinions to influence you to do something that you wouldn't otherwise do, most notably in women who have had a previous cesarean and are thinking of having a VBAC the "dead baby" card is often brought into play to scare women into having a repeat cesarean, and in women with gestational diabetes the "big baby" card is thrown around and those mums are told that their babies will be too big for them to push out their vagina which means an early induction before baby is ready or a cesarean. Not only are these two things wrong in general but they also go against current evidence based research and ACOG and WHO guidelines. Women have birthed big babies (10 pounds +) for millennia with few or no complications, so why in this day and age is it more dangerous to deliver a larger baby than a small baby vaginally? This is why you need to research, and also why you need to research labour and birthing positions if you are given the "big baby" card.

I hope this post has been helpful. Feel free to share it.
Jenna
Student Birth Doula
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    Jenna Edgley is a Certified Birth Doula, a Placenta Encapsulator, a student of both Childbirth Education and Rebozo practitioner training, a mum of 3 children, a small business owner, a potty mouth, a wine drinker (Moscato all the way!) & a self-admitted coffee addict.
    Gemstones are her weak point - the shinier and pointier the better! And she collects them with the same dedicated passion that she applies to Pregnancy and Birth Support.

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