Today I did my usual daily scroll through the parenting and health groups that I’m a member of on Facebook, the kind of scrolling that you do out of habit every morning – scroll, scroll, scroll, stop and read, scroll, scroll, stop and read and OMG I SIMPLY MUST reply, scroll etc etc etc – and this morning started off no different - all the same things asking about this or that, recommendations for car seats or care providers or places to go and visit etc and then the “I’m not allowed to do this” posts started popping up. Just one here or there, pretty mainstream for the most part (partner is controlling and she’s not ready to leave yet, no money to pay for any extra’s that the kids want to do, genuine health issues meaning baby must be born sooner rather than later), then two in a row occasionally, and then it was one or two every few posts and they were getting more and more ridiculous – My family doctor/husband/OB-GYN/mother/brother/sister/grandmother/best-friend/sisters-brother-in-laws-cousins-best-friends-nephew said that I can’t do [insert LEGAL thing of choice here] so I need some other options!”
“Hang on!” I thought, “You’re not doing something, something that IS LEGAL, that you want to do, something that isn’t actually putting your life, or your children’s lives either, at risk simply because someone else told you that you’re not ALLOWED to do it? Are you an adult or a child? I’m pretty sure you’re a grown arse WOMAN (your profile says you are a grown woman, so I’m pretty sure my assumption that you are an adult is correct there, and yes sometimes I do have to go and double check just to make sure that I’m not making assumptions – making assumptions can bring bad karma) who can make her own decisions and not a child who is expected to obey grownups, so WHY are you letting someone else tell you what to do?!?!”
So, I ask you, those of you out there that is post has been specifically written for, I ask you right now, WHY are you letting someone else tell you what to do with your life? It’s your life, of course it is and while it is your decision to do what others tell you to do, even if they are family, or friends, or a specialist doctor, why are you letting them tell YOU what to do instead of making your own decisions about your OWN life?
What are you afraid of if you just, simply, say NO? That they might be angry/upset/frustrated with you?
Why does that matter to you, at this moment in time, so much?
Are you going to live your life in fear of what others think of you if you don’t do what they tell you do to?
Or are you going to live your own life and do what makes you happy, what works for you, what is right for you?
Picture, just for this moment, what your life would look like if you did what YOU wanted to do. If you made your own choices, your own decisions, if you didn’t let others rule you.
What does it look like? How does that possibility make you feel? What would it take for you to be living that life RIGHT NOW?
The hard truth is that only you can create your own life, only you can make your own decisions, and only you can choose how, when, what and why your life is how it is right now – and only you can change it.
Make your own choices for yourself, make your own decisions for yourself - don’t let others make them for you – and take control of your life.
You only get to live once, make the most of it.
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