I often contemplate the question "What Do You Want From Your Birth?"
It's a very important question, and because every single birth is different and unique, and we only get to experience each birth once, this makes it an extremely important question to ask ourselves in the lead up to our births (and even in the lead up to our pregnancies as well for many) to figure out what we want, what we don’t want, what we are willing and not willing to compromise on AND what the hidden emotions, memories, thoughts and feelings are behind each of our decisions so that we can understand WHY we are making the choices that we make and choosing the specific options that we desire – do we make them based on fear? Or do we make them from an enlightened and informed position that doesn’t involve fear? Or maybe we’re making our decisions from somewhere in between the two? I want you to take this a bit further than that though, to look deeper into it, and come out the other side knowing and feeling more than you did previously.
In fact I'm currently writing a workbook based on this very question, what is written above and below this particular paragraph are excerpts from it that I FEEL are very important to share with everyone. So, I ask, let's imagine for a bit - and let your imaginations run as wild as you'd like - and picture what our IDEAL BIRTH would be like.
HOW would you feel if your birth went exactly how you imagined it?
WHAT would your birth look like if it went exactly how you imagined it could?
Add in anything you want, no holds barred, whatever you have ever dreamed of, even if it doesn’t seem likely, include it in what you are imagining.
Write this all down, this is your “dream birth”, your IDEAL BIRTH, what you KNOW would happen in an ideal world where everything happens exactly as you want it to happen.
Some may think “what’s the point of this? It’s not real!”
The truth is that our reality is built on wishes, hopes and dreams - you wish for something to happen and you either work towards achieving that something, or you give up on a dream and it never happens and you never even try to achieve it because you gave up on it.
Without hopes and dreams and wishes and plans and people working to achieve them very few things would ever actually be done – aspiring singers wouldn’t make records and be on the radio, actors and actresses wouldn’t be in the movies or on TV, authors wouldn’t write any books, many babies wouldn't be born with the help and assistance of fertility specialists and IUI/IVF etc because people who otherwise couldn't conceive together wouldn't be dreaming of starting a family and people wouldn't be dreaming or hoping of finding their Mr or Mrs Right... And that would be an extremely BORING, sad and lonely world where no one really does anything exciting or new or important, and never tries to achieve anything.
So we are using this, our deepest desires and wildest dreams, to show ourselves the background of where our plans and wishes for our births are coming from.
What did you think up? What would your ideal birth be? And what do YOU want from your birth?
It's a very important question, and because every single birth is different and unique, and we only get to experience each birth once, this makes it an extremely important question to ask ourselves in the lead up to our births (and even in the lead up to our pregnancies as well for many) to figure out what we want, what we don’t want, what we are willing and not willing to compromise on AND what the hidden emotions, memories, thoughts and feelings are behind each of our decisions so that we can understand WHY we are making the choices that we make and choosing the specific options that we desire – do we make them based on fear? Or do we make them from an enlightened and informed position that doesn’t involve fear? Or maybe we’re making our decisions from somewhere in between the two? I want you to take this a bit further than that though, to look deeper into it, and come out the other side knowing and feeling more than you did previously.
In fact I'm currently writing a workbook based on this very question, what is written above and below this particular paragraph are excerpts from it that I FEEL are very important to share with everyone. So, I ask, let's imagine for a bit - and let your imaginations run as wild as you'd like - and picture what our IDEAL BIRTH would be like.
HOW would you feel if your birth went exactly how you imagined it?
WHAT would your birth look like if it went exactly how you imagined it could?
Add in anything you want, no holds barred, whatever you have ever dreamed of, even if it doesn’t seem likely, include it in what you are imagining.
Write this all down, this is your “dream birth”, your IDEAL BIRTH, what you KNOW would happen in an ideal world where everything happens exactly as you want it to happen.
Some may think “what’s the point of this? It’s not real!”
The truth is that our reality is built on wishes, hopes and dreams - you wish for something to happen and you either work towards achieving that something, or you give up on a dream and it never happens and you never even try to achieve it because you gave up on it.
Without hopes and dreams and wishes and plans and people working to achieve them very few things would ever actually be done – aspiring singers wouldn’t make records and be on the radio, actors and actresses wouldn’t be in the movies or on TV, authors wouldn’t write any books, many babies wouldn't be born with the help and assistance of fertility specialists and IUI/IVF etc because people who otherwise couldn't conceive together wouldn't be dreaming of starting a family and people wouldn't be dreaming or hoping of finding their Mr or Mrs Right... And that would be an extremely BORING, sad and lonely world where no one really does anything exciting or new or important, and never tries to achieve anything.
So we are using this, our deepest desires and wildest dreams, to show ourselves the background of where our plans and wishes for our births are coming from.
What did you think up? What would your ideal birth be? And what do YOU want from your birth?
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