What do YOU REALLY WANT from your birth?
Do you just want the expected (planned? hoped for? wished for?) healthy, happy, living baby and whatever else happens, well, it happens and you’ll live with that and get on with life?
OR DO YOU WANT MORE?
Do you want that much wanted healthy, happy, living baby and to ALSO be healthy happy and alive yourself... AND do you want to feel that you were given the support that you needed, that you felt SAFE, comfortable, RESPECTED, treated as a human being and not just as an incubator or container for the child you carry within you?
Regardless of which option you choose (and no judgement from me on either option choice) YOU DO MATTER. Your health, both mental and physical, matters. How you are treated fucking matters. Whether you are respected or not matters (and I sure as hell hope that you are being bloody respected because you deserve to be respected, and so much more on top of that!)
What you want matters and even when things don’t go the way you wanted them to go it STILL MATTERS!
So many bloody fucking times I have heard (and experience first hand) women being told “at least you have a healthy baby” or “be grateful that your baby is healthy and/or alive”. NO, JUST FUCKING OUTRIGHT GODDAMN NO! That is NOT all that matters and anyone who thinks that it is all that matters needs an eye opener because a healthy living baby isn’t everything - it is only HALF of what matters. A healthy, happy mother matters just as much as a healthy baby – in some cases even more so because if mum isn’t healthy or happy then baby likely won’t be as happy as he/she should be (and, in the worst case scenario, won’t be healthy) either.
You deserve to be treated with respect, to have your wishes/wants/needs/dreams respected, to be happy, content, satisfied with how your birth went regardless of what kind of crap happened because you received the best damn support that YOU NEEDED to be able to get through it and keep your sanity, health and happiness intact. You deserve to feel safe while you are having your baby, to be comfortable with everything that happens even if it isn’t what you had originally planned, to make your own decisions and choices without feeling ridiculed or made to feel guilty by others for those decisions and choices that you made.
Likewise, you also deserve to be able to feel robbed, frustrated, angry, upset, broken or whatever the heck else you want to feel when the shit hits the fan and the worst fucking experience of your life to date occurs. You deserve to be able to feel whatever you need to feel, to let loose with all the swear words, the throwing shit, the punching pillows, the screaming as loud as you possibly can again and again and again as long as you need to.
AND without being told to “just get over it” or “be grateful for what you do have” or “stop being stupid” or “you just need to keep on pushing through and keep going” or “why are you still going on about this? It happened X number of days ago, you should be past that by now” or “maybe you shouldn’t have had such high expectations?” You are entitled to feel however you are feeling at any given moment, you are “allowed” to feel however you are feeling, and you DESERVE to be LISTENED to, to be HEARD, to be RESPECTED, to be treated with love and kindness and SUPPORTED. You are ALLOWED to grieve for what didn’t happen and YOU ARE ALLOWED to grieve for what did happen and you bloody well deserve to be supported in that grief without being told stupid crap that doesn’t help and can (and does) make it worse.
You DON’T deserve to have your feelings belittled, or ridiculed or treated as nothing. You don’t deserve to be treated with disrespect and you don’t deserve to have what you went through passed off as non-event. What happened to you MATTERS and how you feel about it matters too!
You bloody deserve to be respected.
And you will always matter.
Do you want 1-on-1, 100% focused on YOU support during your pregnancy and birth? Do you want someone willing to listen who really HEARS YOU? How about a source of unbiased up to date information? Someone who doesn’t have a hidden agenda? Who trusts in, and believes, in you? Who doesn't pretend to be someone that they aren't? Someone who will give their all in supporting you to the best of their ability and beyond?
If your answer is a resounding YES!!! and you live on the North Side of Brisbane send a message TODAY to arrange a no obligation interview.